Henry Lam ADHD Coaching: Relief for You. Clarity for Your Them.
đ Your Child Is Brilliant.
So Why Are They Still Struggling?
Youâve tried everythingâplanners, tutors, therapists, encouragement, ultimatums. But nothingâs sticking.If you're here, it's because something isn't workingâand you know it.
(Includes fully refundable $25 deposit)
đ A college student looking for clarity?
($50 for 30 minutes that might change everything)
đ€ Not sure if this is for you?
đš This Isn't Laziness.
It's a System Failure.
Your student is:
đ Overwhelmed by everything and finishing almost nothingđ§ Smart, sensitive, and underperformingđ„ Avoiding supportâor outright resisting itđ Masking with humor, charm, or excusesđ§© Capable of so much moreâbut stuck in a loop they canât explain
And youâve tried And youâve tried everything. Still stuck.
đ Which One Sounds Like Your Child?
(*Each of these follows a 3-part arc: where they are now, what happens without the right help, and who they become if the pattern continues.*)
They were the golden childâuntil the structure stopped making sense. Now theyâre anxious, exhausted, and terrified to admit theyâre drowning. They still want to succeedâbut the cost of holding it all together is crushing them.
Without the right help...
They become perfectionists in panicâbrilliant but brittle, constantly running on fumes and never feeling good enough.
As an adult...
They land solid jobs but silently burn outâunable to say no, addicted to approval, stuck in a cycle of overwork and collapse.
Brilliant, stubborn, allergic to control. Theyâll argue with professors, ghost advisors, and sabotage anything that feels forced. They want to winâbut only if itâs on their terms.
Without the right help...
They become the âwasted potentialâ storyâbouncing from system to system, never learning how to channel their power.
As an adult...
They either work under bad bosses who drain themâor refuse all structure and drift, frustrated that nothing fits their mind.
Funny, charming, emotionally deepâand silently imploding. They avoid conflict, smile through burnout, and hate feeling like a failure. Support feels like judgment, so they retreat further.
Without the right help...
They become high-functioning depressivesâsuffering in silence, never asking for what they need, slowly losing confidence in who they are.
As an adult...
They take âsafeâ jobs they hateâliving for weekends, doubting their worth, and hiding their brilliance to avoid judgment.
Theyâre smart. Insightful. Capable of so much. But they freeze under pressure. One missed task becomes ten. Then shame takes over. Theyâre not lazyâtheyâre stuck in survival mode.
Without the right help...
They become chronic avoidersâparalyzed by fear of failure, unable to start anything for fear they wonât finish.
As an adult...
They settle for lessânot because theyâre incapable, but because theyâre convinced they canât handle more.
This is their secondâor thirdârun at college. Theyâre not giving up⊠but nothingâs sticking. Every semester starts strong and ends in panic. They want out of the cycleâbut donât know how to break it.
Without the right help...
They become adult students who never finishâcarrying quiet shame, mounting debt, and a belief that something must be wrong with them.
As an adult...
They bounce between jobs and crisis resetsânever quite launching, never quite belonging, always waiting for ânext timeâ to be different.
These arenât just school struggles. Theyâre identity fracturesâbut they can be healed.
When your child finally sees themselves as part of the process, not the problem, everything shifts.
This is where the story starts to change.
Iâve seen hundreds of gifted ADHD students (and adults) spend years in survival modeâmasking, coping, and building elaborate systems just to seem âokay.â
By the time they reach out, theyâre drained⊠and convinced itâs their fault.
Itâs not.
đ Why Campus Help Usually Isnât Enough
Sometimes, they never go at allâbecause just the thought of asking for help feels overwhelming, shameful, or pointless.Or they go once, feel misunderstood or overwhelmed, and never return.And if they do get support, itâs often surface-level advice like:
"Use a planner," "Study in chunks," "Just ask for help."None of it touches whatâs really going on beneath the shutdown, the resistance, or the perfectionism.Your student doesnât need another âresource.â
They need an emotional translatorâwith strategy.
đ„ Most ADHD Coaching Spaces Feel âSupportiveâ â But Something Still Feels Off
You already know your student is smart.
But most coaching spaces â especially those built for parents â feel strangely familiar. Familiar⊠like home. Like parenting.Structured. Smiling. Supportive.
But beneath the surface?
âBe calm. Be compliant. Make your mom proud.âThat might feel safe to you.
But to your son or daughter?
It feels like another adult telling them to be less of who they are.
đŻ Why Most Coaches Miss the Mark
1. They Were Trained by Survival, Not Strategy
Many coaches didnât learn this work through rigorous training or identity-based systems.
They learned it by surviving a chaotic household â and then building rules to control it.So their method is:
âStructure to contain the chaos.âNot:
âPattern recognition to guide the fire.â
2. They Serve Parents â But Undermine the Student
These coaches often focus on soothing overwhelmed moms.
So the student feels like the goal is to "behave better," not to become themselves.Your child doesnât need more soft checklists or sticker charts.
They need a coach who sees the truth behind the shutdown.
3. They Feel Like a Second Parent â Not a Real Ally
Even if well-meaning, the coaching often becomes:
â
A friendly authority figure
đ A progress tracker
đ§ A soft-spoken motivatorBut it still feels like control â not clarity.
Thatâs why it doesnât work.
đ„ What It Feels Like to College-Aged Students:
âSheâs nice, but I still feel unknown.ââFeels like therapy with checklists.ââAnother person managing me, not getting me.ââIâm being handled, not heard.â
đ§ The Truth for Sons vs. Daughters
For college-aged sons:
They often reject anything that smells like control. They want freedom, purpose, directionâbut not from someone who feels like another authority.For college-aged daughters:
They often complyâbut lose themselves in the process. They mask, overperform, and quietly burn out trying to âdo it right.âBoth feel misunderstood.
Both crave respect, power, and identityânot pressure to be someone else.
đ§Ź What They Actually Need
â NOT ThisâŠHabit trackingEmotional regulation remindersGentle encouragementBehavior goalsExternal validation
â BUT ThisâŠIdentity clarity & tractionNervous system confidence toolsSharp, respectful communicationMission-based coachingSelf-directed momentum
This isnât about soft talk or strict plans.
This is about real structure that respects their mind.
đ What I Bring Instead
Iâm not here to soothe or scare them into action.
Iâm here to translate their fire into movement.
Not a second parent. Not a soft voice.
A guide who:Names the patternHonors their autonomyHelps them take real ownershipThatâs what changes everything.
đŁ Ready to move?
Letâs build something real.
Letâs build what actually works.
Together.

đĄ The Coach Who Reaches the Kids
No One Else Can.
Iâm not a tutor. Iâm not a therapist.
Iâm a holistic performance strategistâa gifted ADHD adult whoâs lived this. I struggled through elite college programs, figured it out the hard way, and built the tools that actually work.What I offer goes far beyond surface-level pep talks. I bring:đŻ ADHD-tested strategies and frameworksđ§© Pattern detection to find hidden roadblocksđ A vetted referral network for support beyond međĄ Deep emotional attunement, paired with no-BS execution supportMost coaches havenât lived this. Most therapists donât get it.I do.This isnât just coachingâitâs strategic identity rescue.Iâve walked the same fire. I know the terrain. And I can build the map outâwith them.I help students who hate being told what to do, feel misunderstood, shut down under pressure, and want to succeedâbut canât stay consistent.
â What Parents Really Want:
Emotional Safety â âTo know my kid is safe, respected, and understoodâPattern Break â âTo stop repeating the same lecture every weekâTangible Progress â âTo see momentum, not motivationâTribal Trust â âTo trust someone besides me can reach themâFuture-Loss Prevention â âTo stop the slow slide into failureâ
đ§ What Actually Works
Traditional systems werenât built
for ADHD minds.
Especially not for your son or daughterâ
who thinks fast, feels deep, and resists
what doesnât feel real.
My approach combines:đŹ Neuroscience â So they stop fighting
their own wiringđ§âïž Breath & Nervous System Work â
So they can finally focus without forceđ§ Strategy + Coaching â So they actually follow throughđ§ No-BS Communication â So they
donât shut down or zone out
I donât fix them.
I unlock whatâs already thereâand help them build the structure to hold it.
â What Happens If Nothing Changes?
Left unchecked, this doesnât just stay the sameâ
it mutates into missed deadlines, dropped classes, burnout, and shame.You see second, even third attempts at collegeâŠ
each time hoping this one will stickâbut it doesnât.It deepens into isolation, lost confidence, and a quiet story they start whispering to themselves:
âMaybe Iâm just broken.âI refuse to let that story win.
đ Why Iâm Different
Iâm the coach they never expectâbut finally trust.
This isnât just coaching. Itâs strategic identity rescue.
I know the terrain. Iâve walked through the same fire. And I can build the map outâwith them.
đŹ What Real Parents Say
đ© âHe finally felt understood.â
âHenry connected with our son in a way no one else could. He didnât feel judgedâhe felt respected. Thatâs when he started showing up.â
â Sarah, parent of 19-year-old
đ„ âOur son stopped shutting down.â
âHeâd shut down with every therapist, mentor, or coach we tried. Henry didnât pushâhe listened. And somehow, that cracked the wall.â
â Lauren, mom of a highly oppositional student
đš âShe built a routineâand stuck to it.â
âFor the first time, my daughter has a system that works for herâand sheâs actually following through. This wasnât motivational fluff. It worked.â
â Jason, father of a 20-year-old ADHD student
đŠ âWe feel like a family again.â
âWe were burned out. Honestly, we didnât think anything would help anymore. But after working with Henry, it feels like we have our daughter back.â
â Melissa & Tom, parents of a college freshman
đȘ âHe turned in his workâand owned it.â
âHe stopped missing deadlines. He stopped hiding. He emailed his professorâon his own. We hadnât seen that version of him in years.â
â Eric, dad of a 21-year-old struggling with ADHD and burnout
â Who This Is For
Parents who are tired of watching potential drain awayStudents who are gifted, emotional, oppositional, or overwhelmedFamilies looking for real traction, not more talk
â Who This Isnât For
Parents who want someone to âfixâ their childStudents who arenât ready to engage at allFamilies chasing discipline instead of intelligent strategy
âïž For Moms Who Also Get It
A lot of the moms I speak with are brilliant, driven, intuitiveâand often navigating undiagnosed ADHD themselves.Youâve carried this for so longâresearching, adapting, hoping. But the truth is: it was never your job to fix this alone.Youâve done everything right. You just havenât had the right partnerâuntil now.But hereâs the truth: Sometimes the best support for your child isnât the coach you would pickâitâs the one they can actually hear.Many ADHD students resist support that feels like another authority figure or âmom-styleâ dynamicâeven if itâs well-meaning.Thatâs why my style is direct, strategic, and built on respectânot cheerleading, nagging, or emotional babysitting.If your student needs a pattern-break, not another pep talk, we might be the right fit.This isnât about stepping backâitâs about setting the right table.
When your student connects with a coach who isnât trying to fix them, things finally click.You still get to be the anchor. But now, thereâs a guide they donât tune out.
â ïž This Might Not Be the Right Fit IfâŠ
A soft-spoken cheerleaderEndless check-ins and daily textingGentle reminders that "everything is okay"A magic fix for your childOr someone who will âmotivateâ them into trying harder...
Thatâs not what I do.
I work with students who are smart, stuck, and ready to take ownershipâon their terms, not yours.
This is about traction, not comfort. Movement, not perfection.If your child needs that â Iâm here.
đŹ Ready for a Real Shift?
Letâs talk.
No pressure. No promises. Just clarity.Iâll ask the right questions. Youâll tell me whatâs happening.
If itâs a fit, we move. If not, youâll leave with insight you didnât have before.
(Includes fully refundable $25 deposit)
đ A college student looking for clarity?
($50 to change your life in 30 minutes)
đ€ Not sure if this is for you?
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đŁ Bottom Line
Your student doesnât need more pressure.
They need power. Clarity. Respect. Structure that actually fits.Youâve carried the weight long enough.Letâs build a system theyâll use.
Letâs get them back to who they really are.Together.
© HENRY LAM ADHD COACHING